I don’t feel that many men from wars ever actually experience full emotional release. My heart hopes that some might & that they actually have/had forgiven just never forgotten which of course plagues the mind.

Had the pleasure of nannying in Long Island New York many many years ago. This little adventure saw me prodominately keeping my boss’s father company rather than the 2 girls. He was a P.O.W in Japan became a pastor whilst a prisoner. When released/rescued continued into the church becoming a Minister & also a Proffessor of Princeston Univeristy.

This man was very wise, soulful, mid 80′s, forgiving, and did talk about all the things that he experienced however when you watched him he still cowered away into a corner to eat his meals, hunched over, eating quickly, still would have nightmares. His family would just laugh it off & say ‘that’s Dad from the war still’
It was sad to witness, and yet this man’s strength in a frail body was pure & beautiful even with the deep seated programimed ghost of starvation that still exsisted in his healthy 84 y.o body. He believed in telepathy, the power of thought, etc showed me thick research documents going back to the 60′s from berkley university & princeton university studying it.

I stayed in contact writing to him throughout my travels until he passed away. Guess the value of this story is that we may have wholistic pathways we walk on & endevour to walk on yet sometimes with all the skills in the world some thing are meant to be in place for others to learn.

The Art of Loving Kindness from both Masculine & Feminine sides is a journey of balance indeed. Release from war memories a very long journey.

Have a Great Weekend
p.s -sorry i babbled a fair bit then

It was actually my father who fought in the war, i was in his 2nd family so later in his life. For him the emotional release never came, but there was a great deal of softening. For him one of the things he lost was his creativity, he went from art school into the army in North Africa. There was then this subtle way in which I lived that part of him for him through my own creativity.

To expand on what I say in the podcast I really think the basis of helping our children to grow with healthy masculine/feminine dynamics is to teach and model 1: emotional intelligence 2: an inner relationship with our ‘feeling’ center 3: critical thinking 4: a clear sense pf personal power and responsibility.

To do this we have of course to be authenticaly engaged with ur own ongoing evolution and healing, and we then model that too, energetically and visibly.

the male said ‘there is no way a woman in south africa or in africa who was driving a car & broke down would wait . Most women would be scared & calling someone immediately’ This male meaning that a woman could be easily harmed there waiting on the side of a road for help.

I found this interesting as he was listening then switched off.

Ray’s story of the Warrior with his grandfather & the war is very accurate in that it shuts down the emotional side that you only stand tall, show proudness, chest out, show a face of bravery till the end. Then as these warriors age,( the one’s left)..slowly as their ending is near do the cracks start to show & the emotions trapped for so long seep out in memories of the fallen & tears.
Yet the warrior energy has been passed down thru to the next generation to be strong, show no gentleness, no affection. I experienced this with my own grandfather.

also in the great depression world wide it was taught children were to be seen not heard, not given attention, affection, left to ‘cry it out -even now’ and if you look at old black & white photographes these groups of children (usally big families) all stand there poker faced, scared, hands by their side straight up & down, no smiles or emotion & not just children in the adults also.There’s much research now on this regarding the effects of no human touch and how it’s passed down. Courses like baby massage is helping women & men reconnect with their babies & create more nuturing loving bonds.

If our little men could be shown the balance of masculine & feminine NoW thru their ‘open’ fathers then the earth will have a new generation of men who are balanced both sides. As Michael Jackson sang

‘There Are Ways
To Get There
If You Care Enough
For The Living
Make A Little Space
Make A Better Place…’

Would be great in your blog Ray to see a list of ways to help out little ones learn to connect to both masculine & feminine in more balanced ways.
health harmony & happiness
MrsMW